5 Reasons Why A Wedding is Like an Opening Night.

I’ve been on my honeymoon in Hawaii for a week now, and my new wife and I have done everything together from surfing lessons to a luau to 36 holes of golf in one day (am I a lucky guy or what?).

We’ve done it all.

Except blog together!

So today, Tracy and I are going to co-author this blog.  Oh wait, hold on, she wants to say something . . .

Hi Ken’s readers!  Thanks for letting me chime in here!  I’ve been reading Ken’s blog since he started this thing, so first let me say I’m so sorry for his reeeeeeeeeeally bad jokes and . . .

Ok, ok, that’s enough.  Let’s get down to today’s subject, five reasons why Tracy and I think a wedding is like an opening night.

1.  It’s Always More Expensive Than You Think

Appetizers and open bars and coat check, oh my!  Everywhere you look, someone is tacking on some extra charge to your bill for both of these important events.  Because opening nights cost so much, I actually thought about sending a note to all my investors on a show once saying, “Hey, we could have an opening night party, or I could reduce the budget by $100k and get your investment back to you much faster.”  I didn’t.  Know why?  They would have rather had an opening night.  It’s expensive, but both the wedding and the opening night performance are important enough to spend the money.

2.  Something Always Goes Wrong

No matter how much you plan, or how much of a perfectionist the producer (or the mom-of-the-bride) is, something always goes wrong.  The sound goes out, the flowers don’t arrive on time, or maybe it even rains . . . whatever happens, just go with it.  Producers and Husbands and Wives-to-Be can’t control everything, so don’t try.

3.  You Only Do It Once

Hopefully.  Enuf said.

4.  You Can’t Invite Everybody

Theaters, churches and reception halls all have fixed capacities (plus you’ve got a budget), so your invite list can’t be endless.  My advice on both?  Surround yourself with your biggest fans . . . the people who have supported you since your younger days, and will continue to do so throughout your life and career.  Don’t feel like you “have to” invite people because of politics, etc.  It’s your day.  You’ve worked hard for it.  Enjoy it with people you enjoy.

5.  It Takes Years To Get There

Tracy made me put this one, because we were together for seven years before we got hitched.  (I know, I know!  But hey, at least I got there, right?)  Shows and relationships can go through (and should go through, IMHO) different stages of development.  Sometimes things are going well, sometimes they aren’t.  But if you believe in what you’re working on, just keep working, and don’t rush it.  If it’s meant to be it will happen.  Just give it time.  I’ve been working on Somewhere in Time for the seven years I’ve been with Tracy, and I don’t mind that it’s taken so long to get that show going one bit.  Because if I had popped the question for that show five years ago, I’d be paying some serious alimony right now.

Ok, there you have it!  Our five reasons why a wedding is like an opening night!  And . . . oh wait.  Tracy wants to say goodbye . . .

Bye guys!  And if you think reading his jokes are bad, you should try having to hear them live and in person!  It’s like being tied down and forced to watch the entire first two seasons of Alf!

Oh jeez.  Remind me never to let her get control of the keyboard again.  Aloha!  (If you want to see some photos from the day, search Instagram: #KenAndTracy)


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